13.c. Amazing tips for Parenting of a Senior School Student

Suggested measures

Listen more, talk less- Try to listen more to them instead of only talking. Understand their problems; appreciate their achievements; give a patient hearing to their emotional setbacks; join in their joys and participate in their emotional journey. However, take care not to be over-communicative with them. If you find them not opening up with you, don’t give up. They may take time to open up with you. While talking,  your tone is most important. Remember these young people are super-sensitive too. Also, ask such questions that answer has to be in detail and not in mere ‘yes’ or ‘no’.

Allow them space-As any other individual they need space for themselves. Don’t hover around them all the time. Let them make some decisions. Don’t try to work out everything for them. They will feel responsible for all the decisions that they take. 

Attend Parent-Teacher meetings- Don’t make it a mere formality of attending the PTMs. Try to know about their class inter-actions; responsiveness; interaction and cooperation with peers; presentability; academic performance and behavioral problems, if any. Keep in touch with the school and their teachers. Remember, they are their guardians for nearly half of their active day.

Encourage them to play outdoor games- It will make them stronger and increase their positivity. They will be ready to face the challenge in a healthy manner. It will take out their grumpiness or mood swings if any.

Encourage them to prepare for various competitive examinations and subject olympiads- First arouse their interest and then encourage them to prepare and participate in various competitive examinations. For example, if they are willing to study abroad, SAT is the basic examination. They need to prepare well. Similarly, schools inform about subject olympiads. They must be encouraged to participate. If they do well, it works like adrenaline for them. Even if they don’t, the experience works nicely for them.

Follow their sleep pattern- Their normal sleep is an indicator of their well-balanced life. In case, you find them awake, make sure that everything is alright. Sleepless nights are sure indicators that something is eating them up. Ensure them to have a night of proper sleep because, as it is, their days are filled up with lots and lots of activities. A good sleep prepares them well for it. 

Train them to organize themselves- It is going to be very helpful to them in their professional college and jobs, as and when they take it. It is said that “Well begun is half done”. So if they learn to plan properly and follow it up, nothing can fail them anytime and anywhere in life. They must be keeping their books, files, dresses, shoes, and other items properly. Don’t be their servant in doing this. 

Don’t make the fun of school or teachers- Some parents make this mistake of criticizing their school or teachers in front of them. Remember, you give them a tool to hide their academic failures. Teachers are to be revered and school discipline is for their own good. For example, don’t encourage them to remain absent even on the slightest pretext. They may miss out on something important. If there is any problem with the school, you may visit the school and discuss with the authorities. 

Conclusion

Children will remain children provided we treat them with love and care. The parents’ growth process should make them more understanding; friendly; co-operative; consistent; cool; calm and ideal for their children to emulate. Believe me, no child will give any problem if they are treated nicely. The parents should set an example of nice behavior in their own lives as well. Remember, children may not speak but they are very good observers.

For writing this article the author has been inspired by the internet sites with the following links.

 https://parentinghighschoolers.com/teen-discipline/

https://parentinghighschoolers.com/communicating-with-teenagers/

 

 

 

 

 

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 The author, R C Verma has mentioned the parenting issues in this series of articles. This is a very crucial stage in the life of the children who are on the verge of entering the professional college. Kindly post your views.