Saturday 23 May 2020

10.a.Easy tips for Parenting of Primary School Student


“Children are our most valuable natural resource.”
Herbert Hoover, Ex-President of the United States of America

Yes, they certainly are. They are the pillars on which this society, country, and the world of the future are going to stand. And, do these children grow fast? Oh yes, they do. It seems just yesterday that you celebrated your child’s birth, saw him learn to sit, stand, walk, talk, and go to a pre-school. He enjoyed his time being there and, learned, unbelievably, basics in a playful manner.

Now your darling of the hearts is a serious student of primary school. He has got books, workbooks, exercise books, globes, Atlas, boxes of pencils, erasers, sharpeners, Geometry boxes and color palettes and ……… Eh! He is growing.

In this article, we are discussing these children, in the magical age group of 6-11 years, studying in the Primary school (classes 1- 5). I have discussed the subject of their education in my blog “Educating through Primary years” Now, we will look into their parenting issues and how the role of the parents takes a different shape as compared to that of a pre-schooler.

For a clearer understanding, we take up a case study of little Miss Anjali, about 10-year-old daughter of Rajkishore and Bhoomika. Anjali is a student of class 4. She is part of a large family consisting of her parents, uncle, aunt, cousins, and grandparents. Being the youngest, she is the cynosure of all eyes. She is studying in a convent in her city and is good at studies. Her parents want her to come out as a holistic person. They take up their parenting role quite seriously and keep pondering over their own growth & development needs as parents. Rajkishore is a businessman but took out time to surf the internet for searching on this topic. He and Bhoomika read about it and could come out with the following details:

 Five roles of parents of a Primary school student

Parents have to wear different hats at different times, depending upon the need of the children in their various ages. These roles for the parents of the primary school students are given in the order of the importance of the role, as follows:

5. Facilitators: It is true that modern parents are more facilitators but for the children of this age group, this role has the least importance. The parents act as providers of their basic necessities, toys, luxuries, dresses, entertainment, school fees, school transportation, gifts, and many other small as well as big items. However, children take these for granted and the parents also feel this role to be just a routine one.

4. Friendly guides: The children of this age group crave for proper guidance. However, it must not be an imposition. It is best taken when given in a friendly atmosphere. It also needs to have moral content in it to help the children become decent members of society and make their world a beautiful place to live. It can be done by telling them moral stories; showing and quoting personal examples; using proper language in front of them; taking immediate corrective action in case of any untoward behavior from them etc. For example, Anjali found a pen lying in the play- ground. She immediately deposited it in the school office, remembering her mother’s instructions. This is one example of how children can learn about moral issues in a practical manner.

3. Educators: It is a very important role of the parents. They know the best about high and low points of their children’s education. They only need to take out time from their busy schedules to teach their children regularly. They do not need to spoon-feed them either but help them develop capacity to understand their subjects. It becomes the primary duty of the parents to make their children take up regular studies, finish their home tasks, and revise the school lessons preferably by making point-wise notes. If parents become careless in this regard, studies of their children are bound to suffer. Helping children to make their study time-table and ensure its proper execution is the primary role of the parents. They must make sure that the children are also active in co-curricular and extra-curricular activities of the school. The parents must also control the screen-viewing time of their children. This can be done by limited their viewing of Television programs, mobile phones, and computers. This not only distracts them from their regular activity but may cause the problems of poor eye-sight, hearing, and disorientation.    

2. Discipline setters: Discipline is very important part of one’s life and cannot be taken lightly. Parents can set the best example by their own life. They have to make the children understand the value of time and the importance of punctuality in life. The parents must ensure that the children are well behaved also. This is best done by their exemplifying it. The usage of the golden words like “Please”; “Excuse me”; “Thank you” and “Sorry” must be made mandatory for everybody to use in the house. This will automatically become a part of their persona. A disciplined and well-mannered person is liked everywhere.

1. Providers of emotional support, love, and care: The small children look for these as the first requirement from their parents. In these times, when, sometimes, both the parents remain away from their children for long hours during the day, due to their job or business or profession, it becomes all the more important for them to first be epitomes of emotional support, love, and care for their children. You may provide them material things in plenty but these cannot compensate for the joy of one hug or kiss of the parents. Their loving look, sympathetic soft words, encouragement, pats, and kindness build very strong bridges between them and their children that remain intact for a long time to come.

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R C Verma
The author has given tips about the parenting of primary school children in this series of three articles. This article is the first one. Hope to get your views.


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